Single parents deal with grief from divorce and loss of a parent. Children need reassurance, particularly that the remaining parent will be there and they are not to blame for the loss of the other parent.

Single parents need to reassure children that they are not to blame in any way for parents' death or divorce.

Single Parents Reassure  Grieving Children.
By Pat McChristie

Grief is the normal reaction to the loss of a parent through death or divorce. Unfortunately, children often blame themselves for that death or divorce.

Reassure your children often that they are not to blame in any way.

Children also have a natural fear that their remaining parent or another person close to them may die or leave them. They worry about who will take care of them.

Reassurance is in order based upon your child's age. 

Listen to your child's concerns without saying he/she is wrong to have these normal feelings. Then try to soothe his/her fears.

"No, Chris, I am  not going to leave, too. I will be here for you."

"No, Sandy, you are not to blame. This is between your father and me and you did nothing to cause this."

Time is needed for both you and your children to get their bearings and see life from a different perspective.

Single parents need to reassure children that they will still be here for each  child.

Grief is a lifetime affair. 

Don't think your children will "get over" a parent's death or your divorce. You will all  have to come to terms with it again and again at different stages of life.