Lonely Singles and Loneliness: You'll meet more singles when you start a social network as a relief for loneliness.

  Lonely singles and loneliness:  The only way to relieve social loneliness is to meet people. Networking makes it easier to meet other singles.  

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Social Loneliness:
A Network Brings Relief! to Singles!
By Rob McLean

Social Network

The bad news is you usually don't find ready-made networks that befit you. You normally have to create your own network.

The good news is that networking is not too hard to do.

Join Groups

Singles' social groups, lunch and dinner groups, church singles' groups might be the first to come to mind. And they help. However, often the only thing you have in common with the people here is the fact that all of you are single.

So don't forget to seek out special interest groups. The people you meet here will share your general hobbies and thus, some of your leisure activities. Instant rapport!!!

Join several groups, forcing yourself to get involved if necessary.

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Volunteer

Volunteering is a great way to meet people while giving something back to your community. Make certain you volunteer for a task that will involve you with people rather than "things." Assisting with a booth at a fair or helping plan a fund-raising activity usually involve lots of people.

There are some aspects of volunteering that don't advance your network quickly.

Writing the newsletter, for example, usually does not involve you with many other people. However, if you are uncomfortable in a crowd, maybe this is the place to start. You can then expand your network with one-on-one contact with others in the group.

How?

You ask their advice; you ask their assistance; you can even ask them to write articles for the newsletter. Then when you brave the crowd, you have some people you already know.

This is good! You are already networked before you enter the crowd.

Have a Party

One of the best singles' parties involves asking a friend who brings a friend. That friend is usually a person of the opposite sex who is not a significant other. This keeps the group balanced by gender. This kind of party can be as large or as small as you wish it to be, assuming you have at least two casual friends to get it started.

If parties scare you to death, ask a friend or relative to help you execute the first one. Humm, maybe "execute" is not the right word here.

If you feel you don't have enough friends to start a party, keep participating in social, volunteer, and special-interest groups. You will find enough casual friends here to get parties started soon.

Work

Work is probably the worst place to find a social network although it may be the most easily available. Any problems with your networking and you can conceivably affect your career.

However, professional groups that you join might be good. If they  don't have a potentially large bearing on your career, then network socially as well as professionally here.

School

Go back to school and get involved with campus life. Not everyone will be young. People from 25 to 95 are going back to school now or getting left in the slow lane of our high-tech life.

After you have tried a few of the above, there should be some social friends that can be combined for lunch or a football game.  And, see,  you have created a social network of your own.

And it was easy. Well, if not all that easy, at least it works!

Move

If you are moving or can move, investigate a cohousing or intentional community in your area. Both provide an instant social network and often provide a close friend or two, also. If you are 55 or over, look at senior cohousing. 

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