Lonely Singles and Loneliness: Short and long-term cures for loneliness are like climbing a ladder. The easy cures are at the bottom.

  Lonely singles and loneliness:  Cures for loneliness include some quick cures and some long-term cures that are more permanent. It is like climbing a ladder. The easy cures (steps) are at the bottom. The cures (steps) get harder and further apart as you reach the top.

Ladder of Loneliness: Cure for Lonely Singles
By Pat McChristie

Quick Cures

Start by trying quick cures. Common quick cures for loneliness include:

• A pet to care for
• Long telephone conversations, including superficial ones.
• New hobbies and interests.
• Pampering yourself or shopping.
• The singles' party scene.
• Sharing time with other lonely people.

Long-Term Cures

The long-term cures for loneliness all involve becoming comfortable with yourself. This includes raising your self-esteem, then rebuilding a social network. After you have built a good social network, you will form one or two close friendships. These steps will cure social and emotional loneliness.

The final goal for many singles is to find their significant other--the one person to share life. 

Incidentally, this is not an article about raising self-esteem or becoming comfortable with yourself. Look here for help with esteem.

The Ladder

Curing loneliness is somewhat like climbing a very high ladder. Each rung takes you closer to your goal because each rung decreases loneliness, yet the top is often out-of-sight.

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Tip: The easy cures (steps) are at the bottom. The cures (steps) get harder and further apart as you reach the top.

One of the final steps for alleviating loneliness is a long, hard step.   It involves combining your new social network with a few close friends.

As you would expect, social friendships are much easier to achieve than close  friendships.  However,  those superficial, social friendships are almost always the source of close friendships.

Close friendships usually start with a feeling of "chemistry" or sameness with another person. They normally start slowly and proceed slowly, often taking two to three years to mature.

Once you find a suitable person for a potential close friendship, start by sharing a few private thoughts and/or feelings. If the person is responsive, he/she will usually share a personal thought or two with you. If he/she is not open to your overtures, don't think of this as a rejection.

People may appear indifferent to your friendship advances for reasons of their own. Or--their indifference may merely be a perception of yours.  Nevertheless, they can't be rejecting you as a person because they don't even know you yet.

Will you ever reach the top?

Maybe, maybe not. However, one day you will certainly look down and see most of your loneliness below you and the top of the ladder in sight. You're almost cured!

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