Sex and Women for Single Men: Most women agree that men who push for sex before the woman is ready had better be really good in bed. Unfortunately, this good sex is unlikely to happen because women have such diverse ideas of sexual pleasure.
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One young woman told SOLO that she has to have time before sex to get to know and trust a man. She has to see him in different situations, with different people, and talk to him for hours before she will "allow" herself to even consider sex. She continued, "One guy I dated pushed so hard for sex, that I gave in before I was ready. But that made sex basically unsatisfying. Even though chemistry was there at first, I lost interest sexually. Once I decided he wasn't a good lover, I was ready to move on. We never gave real love a chance." Another women agreed that time is necessary to feel a real desire for sex. She said, "If a man pushes me to sex too quickly, the relationship rarely gets much further than a few trips to bed. Then they (men) are hurt and can't understand why I don't stay in love with them. They don't get it-I never was in love with them." Most women agree that men who push for sex before the woman is ready had better be really good in bed. Unfortunately, this is unlikely to happen. For whatever reason, women are a diverse group in terms of what produces pleasurable sex. It is a rare man that can be a good lover to a woman without a certain amount of experience with that particular woman. Women can forgive fumbling, partial or non-existent erections, and premature ejaculations when they are in love. They can even call up a certain acting ability in the name of love. But when love has not been given the time it takes to grow for the woman, she often labels the man a poor lover and the relationship is stillborn in the bedroom. Some women learn to look at sexual-timing incompatibilities with humor. One lady said, "I used to resent being pushed for sex. Now I get amused at all these guys and their gropings. Most of them end up providing me with a few funny stories to tell my girlfriends. I certainly don't fall in love with them, but I don't get mad at them anymore either." And still others avoid sex. These women feel if they put themselves in the position to get what they want: affection, touching, and cuddling, they will have to do battle not to have sex. So some women do without desired affection, particularly in the beginning of a relationship, to avoid pressure to have sex. |
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