Singles
should remember that self-image is internal. Self-image is more than merely
recognizing one's positive qualities. In fact, self-image is an attitude of
acceptance and non-judgment toward yourself |
Values and beliefs give rise to "shoulds." When you
are convinced of the truth of a "should,"and forced to choose between
"should" and "desire," you sometimes choose desire. Then you torture
yourself with feelings of guilt and self- blame.
However, it can be changed. Self-esteem is something anyone can increase.
Because you created that self-image, you can re-evaluate yourself as an adult,
with adult standards, and create a positive self- image. Self-esteem is a blend of
internal confidence, external achievements, and compassion for yourself.
One of the main factors that makes us different from animals is our ability to
define who we are and decide if we like that identity or not.
It is wonderful that we can define who we are. The problem enters with the very
human characteristic of judgment.
Ours is a personal judgment, and it can be based on truth or distortion, on
reality or imagination. It can actually make us reject our very self. When we judge and
reject ourselves, we often destroy our self- esteem.
Self-image is more than merely recognizing one's positive qualities. It is an
attitude of acceptance and non-judgment toward yourself and toward others.
A mistake is only a mistake after the fact. You may immediately be aware it was
a mistake, such as when you tighten a nut one more turn and the bolt breaks. Or it may be
weeks or years before you feel that a certain action was a mistake. |
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